I haven’t written for a while because what’s been happening seems too personal and I don’t want to share it. Not that more than a few people will read it, but still. Today, however, I decided to write an entry because so much is heavy and weighing on me.
Y had passed into another phase. About two weeks ago he started spending most of his time in bed, and this progressed downhill to where he now cannot sit up without someone pulling him up, cannot stand or barely walk, has difficulty breathing and talking, and is in constant discomfort while at the same time refuses to take pain meds. My grandson has to pick him up and take him back to bed when he goes to the bathroom, although now he is mostly using Depends, and both the toilet and the Depends has a lot of blood from his urine.
We called his doctor and asked about euthanasia. It’s legal here in California. We made a phone appointment for Y on Friday to discuss it with his doctor. From what I understand, he has to be alone when talking to his doctor. I guess the doctor wants to make sure he isn’t being coerced. If the talk goes well, he has to wait two days and talk to his doctor again. There may even be a third time but I’m not sure. Every day, Y asks what day it is and how long he has to wait for the poison, as he calls it. It is so hard writing this.
Okay, I need to change the subject. What are the good things that are happening in my life?
Right now, I can’t think of a damned thing, nor can I write anymore.